What Can You Do When You Child Has Temper Tantrums
Temper tantrums usually happen with out any notice at all. Your child is happy and content one second and the next you have a crying, screaming, stomp...
Temper tantrums usually happen with out any notice at all. Your child is happy and content one second and the next you have a crying, screaming, stomping child. It seems that temper tantrums are just a part of being a young kid. When your children reach around eight and ten the tantrums seem to change a little but do not be fooled because they are in fact still tantrums.
When a child is just beginning to talk really good we expect them to be able to voice their feelings. A two year old can not put their feelings into words at this age and it can become very frustrating for them. This is a big reason behind a lot of tantrums. No matter how well your two year old understands you and can speak they are still not able to put in to words that they are angry or frustrated.
Staying calm during a temper tantrum is the best thing to do. Listening to reason is not on your child’s list of things to do immediately. However you will get a negative response from them if you are yelling or threatening them. If your child is no longer thrashing around, you should hold your child. When your child feels your embrace it will likely help them start calming down.
As the parent you have to be strong, you can not give in to their unreasonable demands. Once you give in to a temper tantrum things will only get worse. They will use tantrums whenever they want something. If you happen to be in public during a temper tantrum do not give in just to quite your child. The people that are looking at you now will not be around later when you are dealing with the consequences of your actions. You are never going to see these people again so who cares what they say?
When your children get a little bit older the temper tantrums are still there, they are just not so frequent. You will also find that the issues that bring on tantrums are very different. A six year old is learning to read and is becoming increasingly frustrated and so the tantrum begins. If this is happening to you, it is time to explain that he has got to you words to express his feelings but it absolutely has to be done with respect.
When your child reaches the age of about ten the tantrums can get a little dangerous if you do not get a handle on things. Around this age our children are big enough to actually do physical damage to themselves and to others. If you have a child that is nine or ten who throws things and hits when they are having a tantrum I have a couple tips for you. First thing you should do is remove anything from their room they can throw, and second send them straight to their room before the tantrum gets out of control.
Your child may still yell and kick walls but with nothing they can pick up left in their room to throw they will quickly lose steam and calm down. You should not give the belongings back to your child until after they have proven they have self control and the tantrums have stopped. Tantrums at this age are simply bad behavior.
Children this age know how to express themselves positively, there is no need for them to be negative. Most children at this age are only throwing fits and temper tantrums to get their way. Never give in to a tantrum it will only make things harder on you.
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